To continue my (our?) discussion of a Size Aesthetic, I want to talk about how authors imagine their readership and how readers encounter narratives. Specifically, how much do authors predetermine “the” perspective of a story and how much do readers accept, reject, or negotiate those determinations. I also want to discuss the asymmetric nature of dom/sub fantasies and how much consideration we give to authors/readers “on the other end of” such fantasies. Finally, I want to interrogate how the tropes and expectations of size fantasy culture play into (and against) these considerations.Continue reading “Projection, Asymmetry, and Reciprocity in Size Fantasy”
This the most hilarious and inspired tweet from Omnishambles. If you can’t see the image, here’s the text:
Hello everybody! I’m new to this chat
And so, to begin with, I’d like to say that
It really is crazy, if you stop to think
How all of us guys hope that one day we’ll shrink.
Wait, what, you like growth? Sorry, that I’m not getting.
I’d sooner be shrunk in an intimate setting
Her one and her only, being her toy alone
That seems pretty optimal. Each to their own!
What’s that? You’re a female? Neato, I guess.
(I cower at the sight of the cruel giantess.)
How mighty you look when you rise up and then
Take revenge upon all of the scared tiny men!
Beg pardon? There’s women down there too, you say?
Oh. Sorry, I should have suspected you’re gay.
It’s just that in my mind, the women I meet
All want to smear little guys under their feet.
You’ve got to be joking – you’re not into vore?
Then what are you even signed up in here for?
Can you even prove that you’re really a chick?
I didn’t come here just to moisten your dick.
So– oh. Oh, you’ve blocked me. That’s terribly rude
But what do I care, ’cause you’re clearly a dude.
This place is a graveyard. By why must it be?
That there’s no-one as into the fetish as me?
The un-self-conscious entitlement of far too many size roleplayers that Ominshambles deservedly skewers here is very simple to remedy: remember that your preferences are not universal, and everyone deserves to have their own desires accommodated and respected. Always ask before presuming what people are into, and graciously desist when there is no explicitly-given consent to proceed. If not everyone’s having a good time, what’s the point?
This thread on Aborigen‘s Twitter conflates a number of issues that have been concerning me off and on ever since I started writing size smut for publication. I’m going to lay out my current thinking on these and related topics, and as always, I am speaking only for myself, and I invite comments, questions, rebuttals, and other opinions in the replies.
The most immediate concern is that of objectification, which is not of course restricted to size smut (although there is a size-related pitfall, more on this later). The reason why objectification is, well, objectionable is that it treats the object of desire as just that, an object rather than a whole person with a history, desires, and agency of their own. This does not mean—as I believed in my misspent youth—that attraction to someone’s appearance is inherently objectifying or degrading.
A related phenomenon is fetishization, an intense attraction to or obsession with a specific characteristic or activity that assumes a greater importance than respecting the person possessing that characteristic or engaging in that activity. Indulging a fetish is to constantly risk losing sight of everything and everyone else. Being on the receiving end of fetishistic attention is a hollow experience at best.
These are examples of harmful conduct between real people in real life. Is art that invokes such conduct involving fictional people also harmful? Does porn have a greater or lesser responsibility than art to minimize harm?
This post is proximally in reply to this comment by Aborigen, but it obviously is the result of many years of observation, rumination, self-recrimination, and determination. I cannot emphasize enough that these are my personal feelings and experiences, and the last thing I want is to assert that they are somehow generally representative of even most hetmale size fantasists, let alone everyone in the community. To be frank, this is more of a personal journal entry than a public comment, but over the years I have seen and heard things that resonate with my thoughts on these subjects, and so I’m going to digress all over the place in the hope that it might help someone somewhere deal with their own feelings and experiences.